But I will tell you this, my life right now is cake, and cake without any icing is incredibly good and very sweet. In the book I always talk about how I do want to be in a big, bold, loving, divine relationship. You have the power to create the life that you want. I want women that are reading that maybe are divorced women like myself who have never been married to know that who you are without a man is who you choose to be. And when I got back from my little trip, my daddy came to me in a dream for the first time ever. I took a little trip to clear my head and I had been asking God and praying that my dad would come to me in a dream. And it’s faith that’s allowing me to believe that we will be able to keep my mother safe. And it’s been tough because we’re a very close family. And that was nothing but faith that saw me through. And then of course my dad getting sick and then in a rapid succession actually passing away. I got COVID very early on, with battling being sick myself and not knowing what was going to happen. On battling COVID and saying farewell to her father And I think I’ve done a really good job at creating and bringing that person, little brown Bevy, to the forefront. How I to be perceived is how I really am, which is a generous, kind, empathetic, curious, adventurous person. One of the things that I really didn’t like was the perception of me being someone who’s so tough that she doesn’t really have feelings and that she can never be hurt. And that was after I’d done all the introspective and self-awareness work. And I didn’t revisit her until I was, really honestly, probably 38 years old. And I put little brown Bevy away on a shelf. So at the age of 14, when I went to a different high school than my bullies, I was able to change my life for the first time. Little brown Bevy was pushed to the side because little brown Bevy at the time was the one who was being bullied. On who she is at her core versus how she’s been perceived Although we can’t do live events, we do virtual events, and it’s been very beneficial, not just from a financial point of view but more importantly, it’s been very beneficial to me from a spiritual space. And so the pandemic and the lack of TV opportunities has allowed me to get back into public speaking. That’s the reason why the book is called Bevelations: Lessons From a Mutha, Auntie, Bestie, because I’m mother to my gay sons, I am auntie to the young women in my world that are under 35, 40 years old. Folks that feel like someone that they know. People need to hear stories of folks who look like them. On the importance of telling your own story And so I think that what we need to do is we have to take these opportunities to see these trials and tribulations, and we have to turn them into opportunities. You know many people are out of work in our country - tens of millions. I know, of course, it’s a lot of people listening to us that probably have had to change their entire careers, not because they wanted to, but because perhaps their jobs were closed, they no longer have those positions. We have to learn that tomorrow’s not promised. (This interview has been edited for length.) Register for the free event right now, and get a peek at her thoughts here. Plus, she shares more on allowing ourselves to entertain bold dreams, as well as on dating after 50 (and managing expectations), when she stops by for a live Facebook chat on Wednesday, Feb. Here she talks with Sisters about why it’s never too late to pursue our dreams, and how she’s learned to embrace her childhood essence, even as she’s made her mark as a woman with influence. And pursued her dream of being on TV, which led to her work on Bravo’s Fashion Queens and Page Six TV. When she was at the top of her advertising game - and we mean the tip top, which featured luxury gifts from design houses like Gucci and Prada, high-level connections and a covetable expense account - she pivoted. īut Smith, now 54, didn’t get here in a flash. Now she’s the author of a new book about her experiences - Bevelations: Lessons From a Mutha, Auntie, Bestie. She rose above the issues and forged a high-profile career in magazine advertising, where she worked for titles like Vibe and Rolling Stone and found herself in glitzy cities and luxury fashion houses. Raised in Harlem, Smith endured bullying as a child and says she was misunderstood at times. But as a TV personality who happens to be full of personality, radio host, entrepreneur and author, she’s told her story of growth (including ups and downs), mentored other women as both an auntie and bestie figure and shared motivational thoughts on embracing opportunities and cultivating self-love. And not just with fashion, though clearly - as a former advertising executive working with luxury European brands - she dominates that. If you ever meet Bevy Smith, don’t be surprised if you want to be her friend.
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